DIFFICULT PEOPLE #2 - PUT A COMMA ON THE DRAMA!

QUESTIONS?

  • Have you ever had someone in your life that…
  • That seemed to DIMINISH YOU
  • That caused you to OPERATE AS HALF OF YOURSELF
  • That squashed a PIECE OF YOUR HEART AND SOUL
  • MADE YOU UNSETTLED just by the way they projected themselves?

 

  • Maybe it is someone who is an over-the-top NARCISSISTIC
  • Or the distrust feelings while being with a GOSSIPER
  • Or the anxious feelings of being a future the topic of your CRITICAL “friend”
  • Or the subservience feelings while standing down to a BULLY
  • Or the insecure feelings as you hope things are still good with a PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE
  • Or maybe even the emotional drain of an ever-complaining NEGATIVE person.

 

  • How do you DEAL WITH such people?
  • How do you STAY HEALTHY and RETAIN ENERGY for life?
  • How do you REGULATE and live as your WHOLE SELF, rather than a DIMINISHED VERSION of you?

 

LAST WEEK:

It’s NOT about dealing with

DIFFICULT PEOPLE;

it’s about dealing with

DIFFICULT ME-OPLE.

 

EMOTIONAL HEALTH:

Do You Find Yourself Trending Towards…

  • Seriousness
  • Irritability
  • Impatience
  • “Not caring”
  • Being stuck
  • Absence of hopeful Imaginations
  • Unfeeling

 

TODAY:

Emotional health

requires I

put a COMMA

in the DRAMA!

 

WHY WE ALLOW DRAMA:

  • We are unaware of drama’s impact on our brain
  • We are fatigued emotionally  
  • We think drama increases our connection with others

 

HOW DO WE STOP THE DRAMA?

  • Remember, I’m NOT a DRAMA STORY
  • Refuse the DELUSION of perfection
  • Remember, I can’t CONTROL people or things
  • Ask, “WHAT CHOICES do I have?”

 

DRAINS

  • News/Media
  • Social Media Posts
  • Reading Product Reviews
  • Critical Reviews
  • Sports Losses
  • Authority Relationships
  • Subordinate Relationships
  • Peer Relationships
  • Stresses (Economic, Health)
  • Grievous Memories

CHARGES (SATURATION)

  • Worship
  • Thankfulness
  • The Word
  • Prayer
  • Declarations
  • Church “Experience” Environments
  • Healthy Relationships
  • Rest
  • Unhurried Life-Focus
  • Hopeful Imaginations

 

EPHESIANS 4:17, 19, 23, 27, 29, 31-32 NKJV [Paul said] This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer WALK as the rest of the Gentiles [outsiders] walk, in the FUTILITY (frailty) OF THEIR MIND, ... 19 who, being PAST FEELING (cease to feel pain or grief – callous and apathetic), have given themselves over to LEWDNESS (lack of restraint), to work all uncleanness with greediness. ... 23 and be RENEWED in the SPIRIT OF YOUR MIND… 27 nor give PLACE to the DEVIL. ... 29 Let NO CORRUPT WORD (putrefied, poor or unfit, worthless) proceed out of your mouth, but what is GOOD (joyful, excellent, honorable) for necessary EDIFICATION (builds up, stirs heart in holiness), that it may IMPART GRACE to the hearers. ... 31 Let all BITTERNESS, WRATH, ANGER, CLAMOR (outcry, grievous sharing), and EVIL SPEAKING be put away from you, with all MALICE (desire to injure or cause trouble). 32 And be KIND to one another, TENDERHEARTED, FORGIVING one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

 

ACTION STEPS

1.   How will you overhaul at least ONE SYSTEM to STOP the DRAINS?

2.   How will you overhaul at least ONE SYSTEM to BOOST your CHARGE?

Write it down now. Tell somebody you trust. Come to the rest of the series!

 

Patrick NorrisComment